The addJOY Podcast

S2 E4 Attitude + Mindset: Developed Mindsets - “instead of focusing on what you can’t change, focus on what you can create”

In today's episode, our founders, Rose Nylund (Kanika) + Dorothy Zbornak (Mari), discuss how our mindsets develop through time and experiences.

Mindset: the set of ways you choose to think and feel about things

Your mindset determines how you perceive the world. It’s internal.

Subconscious mind and powers about 95% of how we behave
Determined by asking questions
Mindset stays with you unless you change it
A positive mindset will help you reach your goals. A negative one will hold you back.
Helps you to not focus on the things you can’t change, but rather focus on things you can create.
Can be changed with practice and effort.

First get clear about your mindset

Sometimes we develop mindsets from a place of fear
- Embrace your fears
  - Embrace pain, failure, and disappointment
  - Discover how you can use these “negative” feelings to learn from them
  - Understand that you can still have joy while feeling these things
Sometimes we develop mindsets from a place of desiring perfection
- Be kind to yourself and others
- Treat yourself and others well…because you’re both worth it
Sometimes we develop mindsets because we don’t know any better
- Study and read books by people with positive mindsets
- Learn stories about people who have found joy after diversity
Sometimes we develop mindsets from bad habits
- Challenge all of your negative thoughts
  - Your negative thoughts are what develop stress and anxiety; your positive thoughts are what develops joy
    - Negative thoughts do not help you prepare; uncertain ones do
- Train yourself to expect the good. Whether it happened or not, you stayed in a state of joy
Sometimes we develop negative mindsets because it’s all we see
- Visualize joy
  - You will start to see the world as open to your wildest dreams and a better life
  - You will get what you expect

The characteristics associated with a positive mindset:

Optimism: a willingness to make an effort and take a chance instead of assuming your efforts won’t pay off.
Acceptance: acknowledging that things don’t always turn out how you want them to, but learning from your mistakes.
Resilience: bouncing back from adversity, disappointment, and failure instead of giving up.
Gratitude: actively, continuously appreciating the good things in your life
Consciousness/Mindfulness: dedicating the mind to conscious awareness and enhancing the ability to focus.
Integrity: the trait of being honorable, righteous, and straightforward, instead of deceitful and self-serving

https://positivepsychology.com/positive-mindset/