The addJOY Podcast

S4 E4 Savoring + Appreciation: How to Savor SomeBODY!

Episode Summary

In today's episode, our founders, Steph "Chef" Curry (Mari) + Walter "Sweetness" Payton (Kanika), discuss what it is to savor + appreciate the people in your life who are dear to you. If you're enjoying, like, subscribe, and review and head over to the merch shop at www.shopthejoyrx.com and tell everybody you're a #joyjawn Opening Music: Ten Times Mood by Elliot Holmes Outro Music: Last Train by Elliot Holmes Interlude Music: Some Catalan Mysteries by Redeemin'

Episode Notes

Savoring the people in your life helps you to:

• Promote healthy attachment
• Enhance life quality for people engaging in relationships
• Cultivates healthy connective functioning
• Helps others adjust to their role in your life
• Helps us adapt to the stressors that come from being in relation with others (as caregivers, as breadwinners, as mentors, as mentees, etc.)
• Nurture family ties
• Reduces conflict
• Increases job performance
• Improves mental and physical health
• Promotes engagement and learning
• Reduces anxiety in relationships

Reactive vs. Proactive Savoring of People

• Reactive: happens naturally and spontaneously
  • Merely requires awareness of an ongoing positive experience one has not intentionally created, but can savor
  • Fosters the joy of surprise
  • Only reminisce when external circumstances bring positive memories to mind
• Proactive: deliberate and grows from seeking out positive experiences to savor
  • Effortful allocation of time and energy to create a positive experience “from scratch” with others
  • Fosters the joy of anticipation of a person’s presence
  • Reminiscing serves to keep one’s storehouse of pleasant memories fresh and accessible
  • Anticipation can heighten the joy of positive events with others both before and during their occurrence

Ways to appreciate others:

• Be present
• Say thank you
• Listen empathetically
• Be specific in your praise
• Make small sacrifices
• Be available
• Compliment them…often
• Pay it forward
• Be loyal to them
• Engage in activities THEY enjoy
• Take something off their plate, permanently 
• Write the words down
• Know their love language
• Brag about them in public, admonish them in private
• Reciprocate